A sign hung from the wall, their class motto, “ This
above all: To thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not be then false to any man.” (Shakespeare’s “Hamlet”). Several verses were foundational: “It is
more blessed to give than to receive.” (Acts 20:35) “Be still, and know that I am God.” (Psalm
46:10). A phrase often repeated: “What would Jesus do?”
Orthodontist Dr. William E. Flesher and his wife,
Abbie, joined Wesley on December 21, 1919 and remained members until their
deaths, Dr. Flesher on July 3, 1962 and Abbie on December 5, 1971. Abbie was a
paid pianist at the church from 1924 until she left Wesley circa 1932. She would later return circa 1942 and remain
until her death. The dates of the class are 1922-1933 based on materials found.
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"After Sunday School ca1925" |
In 1921 Wesley had a Sunday school class for
college and business people sponsored by Mrs. W.E. Flesher. In the summer or
fall of 1922, Mrs. Flesher became the teacher of a Sunday school class for 9th
or 10th grade girls, ages 14 or 15 years. According to Helen Sellers
the Flesher Class for Girls “really started the Sunday Mrs. Flesher took the
class as a substitute teacher, was then
taught by Mary Lanham (Arbuthnot).”
Sellers identified the following as charter members of the class: Elva
Brown ; Jean Alexander; Mildred Armor; Elizabeth Dailey; La Vaughn Reneau;
Elizabeth Hoffman; Mary Emma Brown ; Sarah Paul ; Ramona Parrick; Thelma Todd;
Thelma Keel; Mildred Jines.
“Our teacher became the pianist of our church and
soon was the regular teacher. She had formerly taught a Sunday School Class of
girls in Frederick, Oklahoma. The class first met in a frame house across the
street from the present sanctuary, where Kamp’s Courts Apartments are
located. When the first educational wing
was completed in January 1927 the class met in the new building.
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"Class Picnic" ca 1926 (Note rolled stockings!) |
Mrs. Flesher was an excellent Sunday school class
teacher. She was capable, efficient, effective, and a dynamic force for good in
her community. She immediately developed
a rapport with the girls of her class that was to have a long lasting and a
profound effect upon the girls.
Helen Sellers posed valuable questions in her book
of memories about the class: “What was the attraction?—what aroused our
enthusiasm and kept our interest?—Why did we grow and continue to grow through
the years?—Follow me as I relate the many and varied activities of this Class
and you will see.” She classed the answers in simple form as :”our teacher;
learning to tithe; bible fund ; closing prayer; fellowship.”
Sellers was clear as to the impact Abbie Flesher
made in the lives of her class, those girls she always called “my girls.” A card
to the class while on a vacation to Arkansas helps explain:
“My dear girls:-
Of course, I couldn’t stand to let you have a
meeting of the class on Sunday morning entirely without me.
I just love you so deeply that it is a real
sacrifice to be away for even one Sunday.
I pray God’s blessings upon you, my precious
ones.
I read the other day someone’s comment upon
Jesus. They said that Jesus had no child, so that we could all be His
children, and all share equally in His
great love.
I have yearned for a little girl, yet prayed
constantly, “Thy will be done.” Who knows but that God gave me no daughter,
that you all should be my daughters, & share equally in my love? You are
so, a part of my life.
Sincerely,
Mrs. Flesher.”
Giving of herself and her time so unselfishly but
always reminded that “Jesus was our teacher and that together we were learning
about Him. No one could have sat through the meeting of this group and not been
better for doing so. Through her pure thought and unselfish life, Jesus’ love
and teachings were brought so close to us. We each learned to love Jesus so
. Often, at her direction , we asked
each other the question, ‘ what would Jesus do?’”
The class learned to tithe and were encouraged by
frequent donations of Mrs. Flesher’s uncle to insure they had adequate
funds. They established of their tithe
money to specific purposes: A Christmas Fund; Party Fund (for others); Church
Fund and Furnishing Fund and Bible Fund.
The Christmas Fund. The tithes were augmented by free-will
offerings and from this fund the class did different things. “At one time we
took on a family of eight (8) in number…At Christmas we gave them a tree and
gifts during the rest of the year supplied them with necessary food and
clothing. One Christmas we gave a party in our Church consisting of dinner,
tree and gifts for a number of poor children.
We also gave Christmas parties …to the children in the orphanage at
Bethany.”
The Party Fund.
“We early learned that “It was more blessed to given than to receive” and
as we grew older seldom were our parties for ourselves but for the less
fortunate…An outstanding party to me, “ Helen Sellers noted was “ the Kid Party
given by Mrs. Flesher on March 7, 1925. Such costumes and carrying on we did
do! I still have a mental picture of Mildred Armour and Elizabeth Dailey coming
in an old horse and buggy and parking in front. La Vaughn and I were dressed as
twins, just at the frisky age . We had such fun.” Accompanying the description
were photos and favors from the event. They also provided parties at the
Orphanage in Bethany. “We took our decorations along… The little tots were so
appreciative and happy to see us come…”
The Church Fund and Furnishing Fund saw the girl’s
purchasing of a rug, curtains, chair covers for the class room where they are
often tightly packed. “We were somewhat disappointed …that it had not been
planned with much foresight as we soon outgrew it and we were packed in there
many Sundays like sardines. There was no available space to even open the
door.” The class roll book of 1928-29
indicates membership swelled to 83 members. Many had addresses around the
church from 8th street to 36th but some were as far west
as the Bethany Home. The proximity to Oklahoma City University also meant that
many college girls joined the group.
The Bible Fund insured all the girls had their own
Bible and anyone who joined them had one as well. The teacher would often take
Bibles and distribute them to people she met. An undated printed item in the
Sellers class scrapbook (possibly from an early newsletter): “The Flesher
Class, taught by Mrs. W.E. Flesher, is composed of college and business young
ladies. There are 75 active and 10 associate
members. The officers are: President, Miss Virginia Brewer; secretary, Miss
Aline Caruthers; treasurer, Miss Lillian Snipes; membership secretary, Miss
Helen Sellers.
Within the past year 10 of the girls have
united with the church, five of whom have been by profession of faith. A large
per cent of the members are tithers. They maintain a Bible fund, which is
supported by tithes and offerings. Any girl not having a Bible may have one of
these by signing the Bible list. They
have given 40 Bibles to girls in the past few months, which amounts to
$180. Each girl is reading and marking
her entire Bible. They placed Jesus upon their Christmas gift list. The result was that he received from us $75
at Christmas time. Twenty poor children
were given a Christmas party and dinner.
For the one week tithe offering they had $50, plus $20 left from
Christmas, making $70 which they gave our church building fund.
A fellowship meeting, open to every girl in our
church and Sunday school, is held each week.”
For a time, the class had its own lending library.
Anyone who had “ helpful and inspiring books and cared to share them with the class loaned their books for
this activity.”
Some of the books included: The Call of the
Upper Room (Katherine Logan); Splendor of God (Honore Morrow); Making
the Most of Life ( J.R. Miller); In His Steps (Charles M. Sheldon); The
Secret of a Quiet Mind ( John S. Bunting); Christ at the Round Table
( Stanley Jones).
Mrs. Flesher was so effective as the teacher of
that particular class of girls that she continued as their teacher until circa
1932. At that time, many had married and had careers but they loved the class
and the woman who become a teacher, surrogate mother, mentor and friend.
The Board of Education of the Methodist Church had
always published standard Sunday School lesson materials that teachers were
encouraged, in fact expected, to use.
Mrs. Flesher did not use the standard and accepted Sunday school
materials. She preferred to develop and use her own material. Around 1931-1933
the Sunday school officials at Wesley decided that the class should conform and
use the standard lesson materials.
There was also the issue of the girls continuing
in the class instead of moving into one of the established adult or young adult
classes at Wesley. Some felt that the
girls had become too tied to their teacher rather than becoming active members
of Wesley. They had begun as teenagers but were now young adults and some were
even married but they enjoyed the class just as much as they had earlier. Mrs.
Flesher declined, she resigned her position with the class and became the
organist at the First Christian Science Church in downtown Oklahoma City.
A lovely and artistically created memorial album
honors this teacher and this class. In
the pages of memories are glimpses that Mrs. Flesher was utilizing basic small
group principles to build unity, rapport, value and spiritual vitality to the
group. It was noted they were instructed
in the importance of learning to tithe and they always did that no matter how
small the amount. Every meeting of the
class concluded by the group gathering in a circle, holding hands, and
praying. The indications are that Mrs.
Flesher made the young girls feel accepted, loved, valued, and capable in an
era where fast jalopies, bobbed hair and bathtub gin were constant temptations
for youth.
The Flesher’s donated a water fountain in 1946 and
one of the beautiful stained glass windows in Wesley is titled, “Christ, the
Consoler.” It is located under the balcony on the north wall, and the donor is
listed as “The Flesher Class.” A history
of 1976 stated, “It is reasonable to assume that Mrs. Flesher paid for the
window in 1927 or 1928 and gave permanent credit to her Sunday School class.” A scrapbook created by class member Helen
Sellers in May 1938 indicates the funds were raised by the class members.
A group photo of the class on the front steps of
the new sanctuary in 1928 was taken by Mitchell Byfield Studios, 907 N.
Hudson, Oklahoma City. Members
identified in the photo included: Beatrice Joy Nelson, Jean Thoburn Wyes, Jean
Keister Lundquiest, Siri Anderson Carlson, Ramona Allen Cheatwood, Laura Allen
Rucker, Julia Alice Goff Wiley, Helen Sellers Sain, Lilliam Snipes, Aline Carruthers Pfaff, Elly Anderson,
Dorothy Downing Larkins Burg, Naomi Alfred, Dorothy (Dottie) Kennedy Davis,
Margaret Thompson, Ima Strickland, Frances Aycock, Margaret Klein Wahl, Thelma
Louise Saxon Baker, Mrs. William E. Flesher (Abbie, Teacher), Mary Carnahan,
Lorraine Springer Schuneman, Mary Wallace, Isabelle Hugh Spangler, Marian
Dierdorff, Mildred Armour Frizzell, Elva
Brown Alexander, Jean Alexander.
[From upcoming history...]